if you've landed here, you probably saw Tender and thought something between this sounds like me and this sounds suspicious. fair. these are the five questions that came up most before anyone joined the waitlist.
yes — and here's the window we built for: six weeks to about eighteen months out from birth. that's the on-ramp most postpartum people are handed at the visit and then dropped off of.
six weeks: the body is still doing its first-pass recovery. pelvic floor, scar tissue, hormones — Tender maps where you actually are before suggesting anything.
six to twelve months: the part nobody prepares you about. the libido that didn't come back, the partner split, the mean thoughts. the postpartum nobody warned you about mostly lives here.
around eighteen months and beyond: you're probably out of the demographic we authored the protocol against. we'll say so on the assessment — and we'll tell you when to come back if it still fits.
a therapist sits with you. that's the work of a therapist and we are not going to pretend it's the same thing.
Tender is the educational and protocol layer next to therapy — physiology, mood, community. a therapist can hear you say "sex hurts and i've lost the desire" and not have anywhere to send you. Tender is the somewhere.
we're not a substitute for clinical care, and we're not sex therapy. we're the rebuild-the-on-ramp layer that the six-week visit doesn't hand you. most of our early users have a therapist. Tender is what they read between sessions.
if you need a real clinical referral we will tell you straight on the assessment, not hide it behind a sales page.
short answer: yes, and we don't sell it, and we don't have any advertisers to sell it to.
longer answer: your assessment responses are yours. we store them so the protocol recomputes for you on each visit — that's the product. we never aggregate cohort data in any way that identifies a person, and we never share any user-level data with clinicians, advertisers, or partners.
the community layer is matched cohorts of six to eight people in the same phase, facilitated, not a forum. you are not posting into a thread anyone can read; you are in a closed room with five to seven other people in the same month of postpartum life, with a trained facilitator. that is the whole point.
two things we don't do: no DMs from strangers, no public profiles. loneliness is already the unnamed killer of postpartum intimacy; we don't carry it.
we don't have a public launch date, and we're not going to invent one.
what we will tell you: the first launch wave seats are small on purpose — fewer than a hundred people in the first cohort. we're pacing the rollout because the cohort layer only works if the matching and the facilitation are right, and that takes time to do without compromising the experience.
if you're not in the first wave, you'll know your cohort's timing when it has one — not before. the waitlist is the source of truth, and we'll write to you as soon as we have a real date for your group.
the six-week checkup was not a green light, and the next twelve months are what they didn't name. we won't add to the wait by guessing at a date we can't keep.
we don't have a public price yet. early access is founder-priced and the cohort email goes out before the list price does.
what we can say now: the launch wave is positioned as a long-term protocol, not a one-time product. it has three layers and a cohort. it is not going to be free, and it is also not going to be priced like a wellness subscription. we'll put a number on it when the cohort gets the email — same email, same day.
waitlist members see the price first. by the time it shows up on a public page, it's already been the waitlist price for a while.
the waitlist is open. the first launch wave is small on purpose.
join the waitlist — we built this for the 2am you.